Sometimes we build such amazing online relationships with complete strangers, that we don’t realise the impact our lives have on other people.
We write about and talk about our lives / lived experiences on our blogs, Twitter and Facebook accounts as though everyone reading it is meant to be our personal psychologist, ready to listen and give advice where necessary.
We just call upon our friends expecting them to be ready to bare our burdens, not considering that they have their own shit to deal with. We want the whole world to bear witness to our lives falling apart, but at what point to we take responsibility and accountability for our own actions.
The world is not your psychologist. You can’t just unpack your entire life, your breast cancer struggles, your suicidal ideations, your childhood trauma, on people – you don’t know how you’re triggering them!
And not everyone has the emotional capacity to deal with things.
I know I’ve packed out my entire life on this blog – because I didn’t know how else to deal with being diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer. I don’t write my thoughts here so that someone can message me and provide psychological assistance. I know that there are many people dealing with first- and second-hand cancer diagnoses…my blog is about my struggle, and to create an awareness.
If I’ve ever triggered you in any way, I apologise with my whole heart, and I will completely understand if you cannot follow my story anymore.
My request, tho, is that if you’re dealing with something difficult, that you consider professional help, instead of throwing your problems into the void that is the internet and hoping that someone catches it and helps you. Sometimes, beloveds, you have to help yourselves.
I am always praying for you, asking the universe to protect you. And I hope that you do the same for me. And please, in all your interactions, URL & IRL, be kind…you don’t know what people are dealing with.
And always remember that I love you 🙂