If you’re going to dismiss the #MenAreTrash movement because you feel you don’t abuse your wife and therefore not all men are trash, I would like you to unfriend me
If you don’t know what it’s like to constantly look over your shoulder while walking to your car in the parking lot, with your keys in your hand, or your pepper spray ready to attack, hou jou bek
If you don’t have the need (fueled by fear) to share your Uber trip with at least 2 people, because you can’t trust anyone, hou jou bek
If you don’t have to let your friends know that you made it home safely, hou jou bek
If you’ve never changed your trip or gotten out at a friend’s house because you don’t want someone finding out where you live, hou jou bek
If you don’t have to worry about going to the toilet alone coz no one is gonna follow you, druk you vas, try to do anything to or with you, hou jou bek
If you don’t have to limit your jogging to busy / peak times, coz you’d probably be safer when there are more people around you, hou jou bek
If you’ve never had to give a fake number because the asker was so persistent, hou jou bek
If you’ve never had to pretend to be besties with a complete stranger just to avoid sitting alone and having men harass you, hou jou bek
If you think I think men are trash because no one wants to date me / because I’m single, then please reevaluate your life, and also our friendship
If you think I’m gonna sit still, keep quiet, not call you out on your bullshit, think again
If you expect me to pander to your needs, protect your ego, tell you that you aren’t trash because you are my friend or you’re dating my friend, hahaha
If you don’t see how men are trash, then maybe you need to consider that perhaps you are part of the problem. Because if you’re not helping to solve a problem, then what are you doing?
Everytime you laugh at your friend’s kak jokes about rape and kidnapping.. (“he’s just joking man, he won’t really do that”)
Everytime you encourage your friend to chise the kin that is “rejecting” him.. (“nai bra, she’s just playing hard to get, kinnes do that. She does smaak you, she will gran you”)
Everytime you encourage or persuade a ‘yes’ when she is screaming no.. (I don’t want your free drink! I don’t want to give you my number! I don’t want to be your friend! I just want you to let me enjoy my night out in peace! )
Everytime you keep quiet when your brasse are misogynistic and chauvinist.. (“Boys will be boys” “that’s how men are”
And even worse when you excuse or apologize for his behaviour.. (“he didn’t mean it like that”)
When you don’t want to raise girl children in this world “because you know how boys are”…
Then you are part of the problem…
Then you are also trash..
And if you’re vinnig to jump on your perdjie when you hear #MenAreTrash, my friend, buy soema two pairs of those shoes since they fit so well..